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• 1. The Self-Image: Your Key to a Better Life
  • All actions, feelings, behaviors, and abilities are always consistent with your self-image which can change
  • must be satisfied with your own self-image
  • must reflect reality to be believable
  • the subconscious is a goal-solving machine
  • your self-image becomes your truth
  • must practice visualization, you can use old memories that make you feel good
• 2. Discovering the Success Mechanism
  • you have an automatic success mechanism
  • the goal must be known
  • you don’t control every small detail of your actions e.g. don’t tell each muscle exactly what to do
  • in the beginning, will be haphazard, but once you are correct the body will learn and remember
  • the human brain can store a lot of data on past experiences
  • goal + intuition + data = automatic goal seeking action
  • the brain can intuit, process, and infer a lot of things
  • success mechanism needs a goal but the means may not be clear
  • learn to trust the creative mechanism
  • it operates ad hoc as needed
• 3. Imagination: The First Key to Your Success Mechanism
  • imagination plays an extremely important role
  • humans act in accordance with what they imagine to be true
  • the nervous system cannot tell the difference between an imagined and real experience
  • your perception and how you interpret the information is your reality
  • mentally practicing something actually helps
  • if you see something clearly in your mind, the creative mechanism takes over and does the job
  • your efforts are still needed to carry you through to the goal
  • set aside 30 minutes a day and imagine the future, visualizing your goal clearly
  • relax with positive vibes, find a successful memory from the past, and go into the future with the same happy feeling
• 4. Dehypnotize Yourself from False Beliefs
  • replace negative belief with positive
  • everyone is better than me at something
  • everyone is unique
  • physical relaxation is key, you cannot be anxious or feel negative
• 5. How to Utilize the Power of Rational Thinking
  • some people think you can’t influence the subconscious but it’s through the conscious mind that the subconscious gets everything
  • learn how to control present thinking to produce enjoyment
  • unhappiest people insist on reliving a bad past
  • select positive goal images
  • identify irrational thoughts and reject them
  • make sure rational thoughts drive out inconsistent beliefs
  • what assumptions do you hold? question them deeply
  • get angry. you may be getting cheated or upset by something that is not even a fact
  • need rational thought and a deep desire
  • keep dwelling on the end result and constantly thinking about it makes it more “real”
  • the conscious mind must know the truth
  • most people underestimate themselves and the difficulty of a task
  • just because you failed in the past doesn’t mean you’ll fail in the future, that’s factually wrong bc people that failed succeeded later all the time
  • focus on what you want not what you don’t want
  • conscious sets the goal and the subconscious fills in the details
• 6. Relax and Let Your Success Mechanism Work for You
  • we try to solve all problems by conscious thought
  • creative ideas don’t come from forebrain thinking
  • a lot of insights come away from the workbench
  • think about something intensely, absorb all the info, then relax and let the background mind do the work
  • good idea to record on the fly, many best ideas come during random activity
  • you become a skilled performer once you no longer exercise conscious effort
  • in social situations can be too restrained if exercising too much conscious effort
  • most of the time you’re in “journey” mode, actually doing the things, but once or twice a day tune into the end goal
  • once a decision is reached don’t worry and go with it
  • the creative mechanism can only focus on the present moment
  • focus on doing your best today
  • focus on the present moment and what can be done now
  • if you don’t absorb the present environment, you may be reacting to a fictitious past
  • you are able to relax if you can focus on one thing at a time
  • sleep on it, very important
  • figure out how to practice explicit relaxation and work
  • make it a habit
• 7. You Can Acquire the Habit of Happiness
  • you don’t become happy because you’re successful, it’s the other way around
  • happiness comes from acting unselfishly
  • happiness is not selfish as its a state of mind and something you do
  • unhappiness is more deleterious
  • cannot rely on future happiness, must induce it today
  • If you learned to react in a negative way, it becomes a habit
  • don’t let outward things control how you feel, and don’t be a slave
  • there are facts and opinions be able to differentiate between them
  • it’s usually the opinion that disturbs them
  • happiness requires us to be working toward something
  • control the state of mind and how you react to something
  • react positively and aggressively
  • see yourself taking positive, intelligent action toward solving the problem or reaching a goal
  • need constant practice to make it a habit and it can have practical benefits
  • use pleasant ideas and memories to prime yourself
  • focus on being less critical and friendly
• 8. Ingredients of the “Sucess-Type” Personality and How to Acquire Them
  • traits of successful personality type
  • success: sense of direction, understanding, courage, compassion, esteem, self-confidence, self-acceptance
  • direction: without direction stagnant, uneasy, not stable
  • understanding: people see things differently, need to get to the truth
  • courage: not just about ability or ideas but willingness to take risk. willing to make mistakes and be humiliated. take a chance on yourself.
  • compassion: develop a genuine appreciation for others. treat them well.
  • esteem: everyone is a unique beautiful individual
  • self-confidence: delete bad experiences. success builds upon itself. as you succeed hits come more frequently.
  • self-acceptance: you are fundamentally capable and competent. believe it and release it. you are not your mistakes. you are always moving towards your ideal self but never reaching it.
  • whatever you do do it with zest
• 9. The Failure Mechanism: How to Make It Work for You Instead of Against You
  • humans have warning signals
  • Failure: frustration, aggressiveness, insecurity, loneliness, uncertainty, resentment, emptiness
  • frustration: may be due to unrealistic goals. goals must be within reach. just expressing dissatisfaction does not solve problems in the adult world.
  • aggressiveness: if you can’t make progress, aggressiveness can spill out elsewhere. need to understand it and get a proper outlet don’t take it out on others.
  • insecurity: not due to inadequacy but comparison to an ideal. get off your high horse. The underdog has more to gain. if perfect no need to try.
  • loneliness: Loneliness is the protection of your ego. Contribute to social situations and make the first move. force yourself to mix and mingle. if you keep exposing yourself to the object of fear immunize against it. will learn people are friendly. when you let go of yourself around others, can be your real self.
  • uncertainty: don’t be afraid of making a mistake. big men make mistakes and admit them.
  • resentment: feels like everything is out to get them. if you harbor resentment, cannot picture yourself as self-reliant.
  • emptiness: can obtain an outward show of success but not enjoy life. don’t look for joy in empty places, joy comes from creative goal striving. emptiness is a reflection of your self-image. strive for success because of your deep inner wants not external validation.
  • check the negative once in a while but primarily look forward
  • when we recognize it, know it’s undesirable and try to substitute it with something positive
• 10. How to Remove Emotional Scars, or How to Give Yourself an Emotional Face-Lift
  • becomes insulated from others
  • being lonely makes you out of touch with yourself
  • don’t want to be hurt again
  • need some skin so small things don’t affect you but not so thick you can’t feel anything
  • healthy self-images are not bruised easily
  • the self-reliant gives love, doesn’t expect it back, and doesn’t feel the need to get it from everyone
  • if you feel like the world owes you, unrealistic expectations set up for more failure
  • can become emotionally hurt not from what was said but from your own state at the time
  • you can’t feel angry or anxious if you are relaxed
  • control your thoughts and relax to improve your life
  • true forgiveness heals the scar tissue
  • needs to be true forgiveness not used as a weapon
  • must be willing to be a little vulnerable and risk being hurt
  • “Your do-it-yourself kit consists of relaxation of negative tensions to prevent scars, therapeutic forgiveness to remove old scars, providing yourself with a tough epidermis instead of a shell, creative living, a willingness to be a little vulnerable, and a nostalgia for the future instead of the past.”
• 11. How to Unlock Your Real Personality
  • The real self within every person is attractive, magnetic. It can have a powerful impact and influence
  • A phony is universally disliked and detested
  • “poor personality” is someone who is inhibited and afraid to express themselves
  • you have a course-correcting mechanism based on the failure, but if too sensitive can lead you astray
  • might conclude self-expression is wrong
  • if you’re too conscious affects your speech
  • when you try too hard it makes things harder
  • a lot of subtle contexts passed around during communication, if you can’t pick this up, you’re a social dud that interests no one
  • should be subconscious can’t be trying too hard / be present and engaged, relaxed and enjoy
  • Just try to imagine things as normal situations
  • maintain poise
  • it’s not about being self-conscious but thinking about what others think
  • stop caring so much about the judgment of others
  • the conscious is not a standard thing, if the compass is not tuned, can lead you astray
  • for it to be useful it must be based on truth
  • most people have too much inhibition, it’s usually so extreme it’s ok to say to abandon it
  • if you blabber too much, don’t think through what you say, etc need more inhibition.
  • don’t wonder what you’re going to say in advance / improvise as you go
  • speak louder than normal
  • let people know you like them
• 12. Do-It-Yourself Tranquilizers That Bring Peace of Mind
  • help manage our own emotions to outside stimulus
  • you can choose to ignore things / don’t need to respond to everything
  • what have you become conditioned to
  • can try to extinguish the conditioned response by trying to relax instead
  • try to delay the response, count to 10 and relax / calm yourself
  • go to the quiet room in your soul, use it for relaxation, protection, recovery
  • go there a little bit every day
  • use it to release tension
  • clear your emotional state. don’t carry over stress to other areas of your life
  • emotional carryover can cause insomnia or rudeness
  • calmness also carries over
  • if it does not serve us, ignore it
  • don’t respond negatively to things that are not even real
  • don’t let the outer stimulus impact the inner emotional state
  • like the internal thermostat, whether it’s hot or cold, your body keeps things at steady 98.6
• 13. How to Turn a Crisis into a Creative Opportunity
  • If you learn how to do a thing during a crisis, more narrow way is burned into the brain
  • more general brain map if practiced during a low-stress environment
  • less dynamic if narrow
  • too much jammed by conscious effort
  • build over practice gradually otherwise you overthink
  • you can practice and visualize social situations
  • a salesperson can go in without the intent to sell and practice
  • if you keep an aggressive attitude, it can release untapped power
  • strength comes from fearlessly accepting the challenge and expending strength
  • if you accept it, will turn to strength. if you avoid it, will turn to fear
  • excitement ≠ fear. use it to fuel you.
  • what’s the worst that can happen? some embarrassment?
  • everything to gain and nothing to lose
• 14. How to Get That Winning Feeling
  • your automatic mechanism guides the low-level details
  • needs to be real to your brain only thing that matters is what you believe to be true
  • is the creative mechanism “set for success”
  • when you feel confident you act confident
  • just act like its already the case
  • once you have convinced your mind it’s already a fact, it acts that way
  • resurface that “winning feeling”, when you felt your best and you can repeat it again and again
  • look for the person who possesses enthusiasm and optimism for life and shows courage and imagination
  • take that winning feeling and vividly imagine the successful future
  • keep building the pathways in your brain until you keep getting hits. your brain remembers success.
  • need to keep learning and see what works
  • if at a sticking point, pause and unload, do an easier thing to build success again
  • start small. begin to think about it. “suppose” such a thing happens. “play with it”. it’s a “possibility”. begin picturing them and it will eventually become more real.
  • build faith and courage by focusing on the positive goal and how it can happen.
  • often fear is not reality. just from your own mind.
  • often underestimating your own ability or overestimating the challenge.
  • react positively and aggressively to your own negative thoughts.
  • can’t remove negative thoughts directly, need to replace them with positive thoughts.
  • Use the negative feeling to “cue” the need to elicit positive feelings.
  • you choose what you playback.
  • memories can change and be remembered in different contexts / viewed in a positive light.
  • strengthen the positive connections in your brain.
  • don’t need to change the phonograph (you). play different music (memories).
• 15. More Years of Life and More Life in Your Years
  • somethings are not proven that I believe
  • humans are not machinery, there is something else
  • age is just a number you can breathe new excitement and energy into it
  • our bodies have a mechanism to heal / adapt
  • there is some energy that drives this
  • people always looking to reverse aging, but not just physical life you should focus on quality life
  • stress-free likely helps extend life
  • serious injuries recover slower with emotional stress
  • people with positive mindset heals quicker, placebos work
  • we get old because we stop acting young
  • if waste products are removed, cells live longer. exercise and stay hydrated.
  • if you curtail mental and social activities, you stagnate
  • become set in your ways, bored, give up great expectations
  • Always need new activity
  • Life is adaptive, if you need more life, you get more life
  • if you have no goals, you don’t need life force
  • looking forward to something gives you the energy
  • the desire and need makes us preserve or obtain it
  • mental ability may peak at age 35 but you stay there until 70
  • might as well just act like it keeps growing indefinitely because then you’ll actually hit your limit
  • if engaging in a lot of exercise and older, just do it gradually
  • open yourself up to many things, enjoyment may come from many different places (science, religion, psychology, physical, etc)
• Afterward
  • if you practice, it will become stronger
  • don’t set a definite date, may actually clog the mechanism, cause disappointment
  • start with shorter-term goals or projects
  • start small and build slowly
  • you will become more intuitive about what needs to be done toward your goals